The Easter was here and all the days were spent in the house. So we had some undisturbed days. Mary Ann had her five months DTaP-IPV-Hib vaccination, the same as when she was 3 months. The strange thing is that this time she got a little temperature the next day after the vaccination. I gather that was why. So she eats a little less and we sat by her and tried to comfort her. The doctor appointment was a little different this time. The doctor made some examination of Mary Ann. Everything was fine. She asked us a couple of times if we had any questions. But is hard to think of any when everything goes so well. Luckily for us. Now Mary Ann was weighted to 4065g and is 59 cm long. That means that she soon will be able to go to the local swimming pool with us. Premature babies have to be 5kg heavy before they have enough fat on their body for the swimming pool. I look very much forward because that gives me the chance to do all sorts of things with her which is not possible on land.
Mary Ann is fine again after the vaccination it was just this little temperature and a swollen thigh where it was injected. She has a little cold. I hope she didn’t get my bad immune defence. As soon as she got sick I got sick my self as well. That is not practical. It worries me a bit to think about. I normally get sick as soon as someone else around me is sick. These days I fell as if Mary Ann and I just keep on infecting each other. For the third time since she was born I’m sick with bad throat, cough, and headache and so on.
I’m trying to prepare myself to go to work soon again. I have a doctor appointment next week. I gather he can tell me more about when I will be ready. I feel less pain now both in movement and in rest. The biggest issue is that I’m awful tired and my functions still fail in the middle of lifting, walking or something like that. Sometimes I wake up with for example a wrist that hurts so much that I have to have my hand on a pillow and sit still for some hours. And then I have days with only a couple of steps I can’t take for few moments. It is odd and frustrating. But it still works out fine when Neil is around. Then he can take over where I feel insufficiently. I think the biggest issue for me is that it is dangerous for me to lift Mary Ann in some situations. It is difficult for me to let Neil lift her when I’m able. But it needs to be like that because what if that is in that moment where my joints don’t want to work. Then I would drop her! Then I’m an even worse mum then when I let someone else lift her up. I really have to work with this feeling. The other day someone wanted to start Mary Ann’s mobile to entertain her. I snap at the poor women because I don’t want some stranger to do anything with my child. I’m not in doubt; that is because I have some issue I have to work with. Sometimes I’m very aware of my disabilities towards taking care of Mary Ann. That irritates me. I look forward for when I can do even more with her and for her. Until then I exercise my back for it to get stronger. And I enjoy the things I AM able to do with and for her.
Mary Anns has turned one :-)
Saturday, 29 March 2008
Monday, 24 March 2008
The development of Mary Ann - updated continuously
Week 23:
Mary Ann is making ready to lift her head. Mentally she is acting her age but her body is not as ready. She is interested in her surroundings. She likes looking at our faces and loves when our faces look funny and make sounds. She is happy and giggling. Mary Ann smiles often and seams at ease. She has quite a temper though when something is not suiting her. She “asks” for entertainment but also shows that she wants to be left alone again. Often it is after 20-30 minutes she wants a nap again. We play music, sing and make “gymnastics”. Then she waves around with her limbs and makes bobbles with her mouth. Suddenly she has a lot of things she wants to tell us. Then she “talks” and “talks”. You can see her eagerness in telling us everything she has on her mind.
She doesn’t like to lie on her sides. Therefore we train that. She has a tendency to hold her head downwards one side. In that case we fixate her differently.
She is much more awake now and she eats more often and a bigger quantity. She doesn’t want her dummy but now fancy her baby soother.
One year old:
She just got her first tooth on 131108. She started eating normal food already in April with small steps, but it is not before now she mainly eats food. She still has a bottle once in a while - especially during night time. She started rolling over in July/August. Now she can sit on her own for about 5-10 minutes before she falls over. She loves to lie on her tummy playing with toys. Her favorite is everything with sounds. She has a lot of rhythm. As soon as the melody goes on she starts jumping and waving with arms and legs. She is joyful, harmonic and easy going. Her strong will she helping her in her development. That will bring her closer to the average skills of her age. This still needs some. She is eager to learn new things. When she is introduced to exercises which is a challenge to her body she get a bit annoyed but continues. We
She loves going the day nursery. We are more challenged as parents now in the weekends to keep her occupied. In the same time things can get a little too much for her. She is good to letting us know she wants some peace again. We have learnt to pack all our things right away so we are ready to hurry home, when she asks us to.
She can now sit a special chair with us at the dinner table. That makes life easier. She can also be placed in a shopping trolley – that is even better. She finds it more interesting to go shopping now. Particularly in these days with all the Christmas decorations, lights and big red balls!
Wonder what she says about all the Christmas presents or should I say Christmas light and ribbons?
(updated 24/03/2008)
Mary Ann is making ready to lift her head. Mentally she is acting her age but her body is not as ready. She is interested in her surroundings. She likes looking at our faces and loves when our faces look funny and make sounds. She is happy and giggling. Mary Ann smiles often and seams at ease. She has quite a temper though when something is not suiting her. She “asks” for entertainment but also shows that she wants to be left alone again. Often it is after 20-30 minutes she wants a nap again. We play music, sing and make “gymnastics”. Then she waves around with her limbs and makes bobbles with her mouth. Suddenly she has a lot of things she wants to tell us. Then she “talks” and “talks”. You can see her eagerness in telling us everything she has on her mind.
She doesn’t like to lie on her sides. Therefore we train that. She has a tendency to hold her head downwards one side. In that case we fixate her differently.
She is much more awake now and she eats more often and a bigger quantity. She doesn’t want her dummy but now fancy her baby soother.
One year old:
She just got her first tooth on 131108. She started eating normal food already in April with small steps, but it is not before now she mainly eats food. She still has a bottle once in a while - especially during night time. She started rolling over in July/August. Now she can sit on her own for about 5-10 minutes before she falls over. She loves to lie on her tummy playing with toys. Her favorite is everything with sounds. She has a lot of rhythm. As soon as the melody goes on she starts jumping and waving with arms and legs. She is joyful, harmonic and easy going. Her strong will she helping her in her development. That will bring her closer to the average skills of her age. This still needs some. She is eager to learn new things. When she is introduced to exercises which is a challenge to her body she get a bit annoyed but continues. We
She loves going the day nursery. We are more challenged as parents now in the weekends to keep her occupied. In the same time things can get a little too much for her. She is good to letting us know she wants some peace again. We have learnt to pack all our things right away so we are ready to hurry home, when she asks us to.
She can now sit a special chair with us at the dinner table. That makes life easier. She can also be placed in a shopping trolley – that is even better. She finds it more interesting to go shopping now. Particularly in these days with all the Christmas decorations, lights and big red balls!
Wonder what she says about all the Christmas presents or should I say Christmas light and ribbons?
(updated 24/03/2008)
Thursday, 20 March 2008
Week 22 - UK
Why is it that I feel like having a ice cream when I see one? But I don’t feel like having a baby just because of seeing one. So many other women have that sudden desire of having a little baby. Again we met a lot of other women who were totally taken by Mary Ann. They got the craving to get another baby now. I really don’t get it. Mary Ann took it nicely though with all those people who came and looked at her at Cecilie’s school party. I don’t like people to stir at her like that. So I hung a little blanket up in front of Mary Ann at her pram to give her some private time. I don’t think Mary Ann liked that, because she started screaming every time I tried to cover her a bit.
I went for curse in how to make family trees. I have started to make a very nice one for Mary Ann’s wall. When we got married I also made one for Cecilie, which she often looks at. I hope Mary Ann as well will be joyful knowing to belongs to this big and special family.
Sunday was Mary Ann’s first time on her own with a babysitter or actually two babysitters. Stinne and her sister took care of her while Neil and I played lovers. We went to the most fantastic Riverdance show! Mary Ann was so easy to take care of we were told, when we got back after 2-3 hours. Even I took it nicely. I just had to look at my mobile phone to check if they had called 4-5 times. Of curse I thought of Mary Ann all through the show but I still able to enjoy it to the fullest. It was nice to try a night on our own. I have already planned the next “Neil Tina Day” in April.
Mary Ann has a cold again like the rest of us. We just got rid of one. Urrgh. At least it’s not as poor as last time for any of us. But this time even Neil is having a bad throat.
Mary Ann went for a heart scan again. One of the two holes is totally closed now. The one that is left is almost closed. The doctor expects it to close by it self shortly. He wants to see her again in 6 months.
She has turned five months now. The Easter is on its way and time fly.
Slideshow: MAC five months old
Video: MAC snores
I went for curse in how to make family trees. I have started to make a very nice one for Mary Ann’s wall. When we got married I also made one for Cecilie, which she often looks at. I hope Mary Ann as well will be joyful knowing to belongs to this big and special family.
Sunday was Mary Ann’s first time on her own with a babysitter or actually two babysitters. Stinne and her sister took care of her while Neil and I played lovers. We went to the most fantastic Riverdance show! Mary Ann was so easy to take care of we were told, when we got back after 2-3 hours. Even I took it nicely. I just had to look at my mobile phone to check if they had called 4-5 times. Of curse I thought of Mary Ann all through the show but I still able to enjoy it to the fullest. It was nice to try a night on our own. I have already planned the next “Neil Tina Day” in April.
Mary Ann has a cold again like the rest of us. We just got rid of one. Urrgh. At least it’s not as poor as last time for any of us. But this time even Neil is having a bad throat.
Mary Ann went for a heart scan again. One of the two holes is totally closed now. The one that is left is almost closed. The doctor expects it to close by it self shortly. He wants to see her again in 6 months.
She has turned five months now. The Easter is on its way and time fly.
Slideshow: MAC five months old
Video: MAC snores
Week 21 - UK
Neil and I were kissing and had forgotten about Mary Ann until she made a little sound and we looked down at her. There she was smiling the biggest smile ever and giggling. As she wanted to say: I love to see my mum and dad in love.
She now eats a lot more. I feel she is eating all her waken moments now.
She is crankier now but well again now. It is like she more often tells us when she is not pleased. At least the cold is gone.
We had a great Friday evening at the parish community centre where we dined with round ten other families. We were all very kind and welcoming towards us. I hope it could be a new monthly thing for us to do as a family. Mary Ann was complaining a lot though. Normally she just sleeps all the time. But I felt she had problems to rest there so I took her out to a calmer room.
Saturday we again dined with some local people at this special event in an assembly hall where also a blues band came. It was the same situation with Mary Ann what she could settle down. So we took her out side the door next to the toilets. We had our own little party at these tables as people we didn’t know came to sit with us. So that was a great decision to sit there instead.
I think she will get problem with her second toe. It is like it curves down. That will give her a problem if she dreams of longer nails at some point.
The Health Visitor was here again. She is still pleased with Mary Ann. She weighted Mary Ann to 3750 g and measured her at 57 cm. She made different exercises with Mary Ann which went well. She told us that Mary Ann’s restlessness might be because she now understands there is a whole world around her. She wants to investigate that but gets tired in process. Being so exited around all the new things and in the same time too tired makes her uneasy. So we do as we normally do: takes her out of the noisiest room and go for a little walk.
Now I’m convinced: Mary Ann is the most beautiful baby at least of all 40 babies we met at an arrangement for mums/dads and the babies at the library. A friend of mine said that Mary Ann was distinct beautiful. I thought that was odd she could see anything of the kind in our very little baby who still was lying in an incubator with all the tubes on. But now I believe her! Mary Ann is the most beautiful of them all. Who said something about love is making blind?
The priest was here Thursday as Mary Ann got into her 22nd week. We discussed the forthcoming Christening. I was pleased to learn that we (I) could choose a hymn myself. He was also kind enough to try finding hymns which are also known in English as we did at our wedding. At that time I found three hymns which I found both the Danish and English text for so it could be song in both at the same time. That sounded splendid. I hope to get the same success again.
Special things this week:
090308 Mary Ann lifted up her head a bit so I could lift her from her bed.
100308 Mary Ann lifted up her head by her own will.
Video: MAC lifting her head
She now eats a lot more. I feel she is eating all her waken moments now.
She is crankier now but well again now. It is like she more often tells us when she is not pleased. At least the cold is gone.
We had a great Friday evening at the parish community centre where we dined with round ten other families. We were all very kind and welcoming towards us. I hope it could be a new monthly thing for us to do as a family. Mary Ann was complaining a lot though. Normally she just sleeps all the time. But I felt she had problems to rest there so I took her out to a calmer room.
Saturday we again dined with some local people at this special event in an assembly hall where also a blues band came. It was the same situation with Mary Ann what she could settle down. So we took her out side the door next to the toilets. We had our own little party at these tables as people we didn’t know came to sit with us. So that was a great decision to sit there instead.
I think she will get problem with her second toe. It is like it curves down. That will give her a problem if she dreams of longer nails at some point.
The Health Visitor was here again. She is still pleased with Mary Ann. She weighted Mary Ann to 3750 g and measured her at 57 cm. She made different exercises with Mary Ann which went well. She told us that Mary Ann’s restlessness might be because she now understands there is a whole world around her. She wants to investigate that but gets tired in process. Being so exited around all the new things and in the same time too tired makes her uneasy. So we do as we normally do: takes her out of the noisiest room and go for a little walk.
Now I’m convinced: Mary Ann is the most beautiful baby at least of all 40 babies we met at an arrangement for mums/dads and the babies at the library. A friend of mine said that Mary Ann was distinct beautiful. I thought that was odd she could see anything of the kind in our very little baby who still was lying in an incubator with all the tubes on. But now I believe her! Mary Ann is the most beautiful of them all. Who said something about love is making blind?
The priest was here Thursday as Mary Ann got into her 22nd week. We discussed the forthcoming Christening. I was pleased to learn that we (I) could choose a hymn myself. He was also kind enough to try finding hymns which are also known in English as we did at our wedding. At that time I found three hymns which I found both the Danish and English text for so it could be song in both at the same time. That sounded splendid. I hope to get the same success again.
Special things this week:
090308 Mary Ann lifted up her head a bit so I could lift her from her bed.
100308 Mary Ann lifted up her head by her own will.
Video: MAC lifting her head
Sunday, 2 March 2008
Week 20 - UK
This week is hasn’t been a nice job to watch and listen to Mary Ann. She has been sick. I hate that. It is a scary feeling not to be able to do anything for her. She had a very bad cold and her cough sounded as an old smokers.
Cecilie was sick already last week and now both Mary Ann and I and still Cecilie are sick. We have a cold with bad throat, headache, sneezing, and pain in ears. As always Neil is alright. The good thing is; Mary Ann doesn’t show a bad mood when sick. But it is funny to see Mary Ann laugh and giggling while sneezing, small red eyes and blocked nose. I had to tell her: “You know Mary Ann it is okay to be in a bad mood when you feel lousy”. I also said it while Cecilie heard it, because Cecilie surely knows how to use a bad health for an excuse of bad temper, laziness and so. When I said this to Mary Ann, Cecilie had a little smile as understanding why I said so. And then she added: “Uh no I think you Mary Ann is becoming just like your mum. Always this silly giggling even when sick and I’m mainly afraid that you will be as foolish as your mum in the morning as well”. I laughed of curse and explained that up to now, Mary Ann has become exactly as Neil has “ordered”: light girl who is very awake in the evening. So let’s see if there will be anything of me in her. In that case I would be happy to see her with a happy mind and strong willpower. That’s not the worst abilities to get. I think she already has that. Neil has long ago said he would like her to get his looks but my brains. I would rather it was the other way round.
So it has been a quiet week. We have stayed indoor and tried to be more relaxed. We have dressed Mary Ann very warm and placed a pillow under her madras to lift her heard up a bit. We have sucked some of the snot out of her nose and beside that, we couldn’t do more. We have watched her 24/7 this week. It’s not before here in the end of the week, where she is getting better now, she has slept alone at her room again. I was afraid of leaving her on her own. What if she suddenly couldn’t breathe because of the blocked nose? She hasn’t had a temperature so I was sure she should be alright again. However Neil wanted us to bring her to the doctor and so we did Thursday. Everything was fine, she just had a cold. The doctor said that Mary Ann was strong enough to cope with it herself. That was nice to hear.
Even though she still is little she is strong and healthy. We had our friend Heidi here on visit a week ago. She also noticed that Mary Ann is small as a newborn but mentally totally aware of people. She found that funny. And it is a funny mixture but very significant of how you would see Mary Ann.
Cecilie was sick already last week and now both Mary Ann and I and still Cecilie are sick. We have a cold with bad throat, headache, sneezing, and pain in ears. As always Neil is alright. The good thing is; Mary Ann doesn’t show a bad mood when sick. But it is funny to see Mary Ann laugh and giggling while sneezing, small red eyes and blocked nose. I had to tell her: “You know Mary Ann it is okay to be in a bad mood when you feel lousy”. I also said it while Cecilie heard it, because Cecilie surely knows how to use a bad health for an excuse of bad temper, laziness and so. When I said this to Mary Ann, Cecilie had a little smile as understanding why I said so. And then she added: “Uh no I think you Mary Ann is becoming just like your mum. Always this silly giggling even when sick and I’m mainly afraid that you will be as foolish as your mum in the morning as well”. I laughed of curse and explained that up to now, Mary Ann has become exactly as Neil has “ordered”: light girl who is very awake in the evening. So let’s see if there will be anything of me in her. In that case I would be happy to see her with a happy mind and strong willpower. That’s not the worst abilities to get. I think she already has that. Neil has long ago said he would like her to get his looks but my brains. I would rather it was the other way round.
So it has been a quiet week. We have stayed indoor and tried to be more relaxed. We have dressed Mary Ann very warm and placed a pillow under her madras to lift her heard up a bit. We have sucked some of the snot out of her nose and beside that, we couldn’t do more. We have watched her 24/7 this week. It’s not before here in the end of the week, where she is getting better now, she has slept alone at her room again. I was afraid of leaving her on her own. What if she suddenly couldn’t breathe because of the blocked nose? She hasn’t had a temperature so I was sure she should be alright again. However Neil wanted us to bring her to the doctor and so we did Thursday. Everything was fine, she just had a cold. The doctor said that Mary Ann was strong enough to cope with it herself. That was nice to hear.
Even though she still is little she is strong and healthy. We had our friend Heidi here on visit a week ago. She also noticed that Mary Ann is small as a newborn but mentally totally aware of people. She found that funny. And it is a funny mixture but very significant of how you would see Mary Ann.
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